Why Mediators Don’t Give Advice, Suggestions or Opinions

Mediators don't give advice suggestions or opinions

For some people who come to mediation for the first time, either as a client or as someone wanting to train in mediation skills there can be a sense of surprise when they find out that  Mediators don’t give advice, Continue reading Why Mediators Don’t Give Advice, Suggestions or Opinions

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 6 – Adult-Adult not Parent-Child

The last in this series on the Underlying Philosophies of Mediation is one of the most challenging aspects of the process and in  many ways the one least adhered to: the expectation that we have an adult-adult not parent-child relationship Continue reading Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 6 – Adult-Adult not Parent-Child

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 5 – Confidentiality

When we train mediators and conflict coaches one of the exercises we sometimes do is ask people to brainstorm why confidentiality on the part of the mediator is important to the mediation process. Some of the words or phrases that Continue reading Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 5 – Confidentiality

Resolving Personal Conflict with Someone who is Dying

I am very grateful to my good friend Adam Shaw for the opportunity to integrate his videos of tips about important things to consider when someone close to us is dying. Adam has years of experience of working as a Continue reading Resolving Personal Conflict with Someone who is Dying

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 4 – No-blame Approach

One of the most powerful aspects of mediation in terms of its capacity to support the resolution of conflict is that it adopts a ‘no-blame’ approach to the situation in dispute and those involved. This is one of the significant Continue reading Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 4 – No-blame Approach

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 3 – Impartiality

One of the more commonly recognised  Philosophies of Mediation is that of impartiality, however it is not always clear in literature what the term actually means and how it manifests within the process and experience of having mediation. Impartiality within Continue reading Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 3 – Impartiality

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 2 – Supporting Empowerment

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation - Empowerment

Supporting empowerment is a continuous aim of effective conflict resolution and so forms one of the 6 Underlying Philosophies of Mediation. If a conflict has an imposed ‘solution’ it is unlikely to be sustainable as those directed by the imposed Continue reading Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 2 – Supporting Empowerment

‘Getting a Mediation Agreement’ – Mediation’s Red Herring

mediation agreement

This morning I had another talk with the German Chancellor, Herr Hitler, and here is the paper which bears his name upon it as well as mine. Some of you, perhaps, have already heard what it contains but I would Continue reading ‘Getting a Mediation Agreement’ – Mediation’s Red Herring

The Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 1 – Ownership

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation 1 - Ownership

Summary : Overlooking the essential issue of ‘ownership’ as one of the underlying philosophies of mediation means that a process labelled as ‘mediation’  defaults to an adversarial process more akin to arbitration and other adversarial processes. As a result, mediation Continue reading The Underlying Philosophies of Mediation: Philosophy 1 – Ownership

The Underlying Philosophies of Mediation

Underlying Philosophies of Mediation

What are the ‘Underlying Philosophies of Mediation?’ How does mediation differ from the other ADR (alternative dispute resolution) processes we often hear about?  This article introduces a set of posts designed to establish a framework of underlying philosophies of mediation Continue reading The Underlying Philosophies of Mediation